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Ladybug · Messages: 19 Location: Tucker, Georgia USA

I am grateful for the sister I lost, and the ones I still have.
At the prayer service, people kept saying what a good job the funeral home had done with her, and how beautiful she looked and compared to how she looked in the last pictures I saw of her, and knowing it got worse after that, I am sure they are right, but she didnt look beautiful to me. She didnt much resemble my larger than life, in your face, kick ass, cussing, hilariously funny sister, Collette. Gone were her smirks and her loud voice and her constant motion and her endless, totally inflexible opinions. Gone is her amazing voice that brought me so much comfort while she was ill when I should have been the one comforting her. No more of her bawdy jokes or the endless stream of gossip and information about family that always helped me feel so connected. I couldnt picture her in that body, especially that face and the dark roots of her always blonde hair, but I saw the sweetest part of her nature, the most gentle part of her self in her hands, as beautiful as they ever were in life, even as death stole her from us far too soon - so much sooner than she should have gone. So many things taken care of by her before she went, to ease her passing for the rest of us. Collettes hands never looked as tough as she worked so hard to make everyone believe she was. Her hands were as delicate as lace. They were pale and as smooth as silk with long, graceful fingers. I know I will recognize her in heaven, and I look forward to touching those soft, sweet hands of hers.

mame · Messages: 1404 Location: Colorado (aka:Paradise)

(((((Ladybug)))))

I'm so sorry for your loss. I am glad your sister had someone like you who was able to appreciate her.

God bless you and comfort you!

~~Mame
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"Were there no God, we would be in this glorious world with grateful hearts, and
no one to thank" ~ Christina Rossetti

Ladybug · Messages: 19 Location: Tucker, Georgia USA

Thanks Mame. It has been five years, but sometimes still feels pretty fresh. She was one of my baby sisters, (a set of twins) and she was married to my husband's brother. They lived almost 2000 miles away, close to our husband's family, her twin, and our mother, so her constant running comment on what everyone was up to made me feel so connected. I miss that a lot. My other baby sister (her twin) was just here for a visit and it was so good to see her. They left on Monday, and it always brings up thoughts of Collette. Funny to still call them baby sisters, since they were born in 1971, but I still always think of them that way.

sassyangelac · Messages: 1108

Brian's Native Hawaiians makes all thoughts of my own sister merry. If you haven't seen it yet, search for it.

rich · Messages: 583 Location: Longmont, CO

We used to go visit my grandma on the train & on the way my sister & I would talk to people we met & tell them we were from Hawaii & could speak Polynesian & I'd hold up a 7-Up & say this is called puka-puka-wanini on the Big Island & we'd make up longer and longer names until it took about 10 minutes to say one & about that time we would be there & we'd say aloha & go off to have lunch at my grandma's & my sister would hold up a Mrs. Paul's fish stick & say in Hawaii they call these molo-molo-pooey-pooey & I'd try not to choke on my fruit punch

--Brian Andreas

mish · Messages: 1033 Location: Southern California

ladybug...

i am so sorry for your loss, whether recent or older, it never goes away.
Closure..a word made up to make those who haven't been though it....

your sister sounds absolutely lovely, and your love for her is beautiful
peace,
michele

We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us....E.M.Forster