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anntinasia · 23/06/2010 14:44:19 Subject: Goodbye, Argentina?

Emilio called me last night.... said he was having a huge problem with mgt getting on his ass about his work. I guess this has been going on for some time, now. He said he could quit or get fired anytime... He is thinking about going back home to Argentina.

Do I still see him or do I break it off?
I don't like this hat...
Tina

Anntinasia

"Sometimes life calls for an unexpected hat!"

"Everything you can imagine is real."
~Pablo Picasso~

linda gail · Messages: 1669

Ah, T. That's a tough one. Weigh the pros and cons and follow your heart. I've never been to Argentina, but it does have your name in it...

Believe.

hecticeclectic · 23/06/2010 18:04:22 Subject: Re: Goodbye, Argentina?

Good answer, LG.

Ya' know, T, nothing in life, be it romance or a job, etc., is a sure thing. I dunno that I would detach from someone because of what MIGHT happen. I understand that is a tough call in matters of the heart. Still, live BOLDLY.

Love,
Jo

Look up at the sky. Ask yourself, "Has the sheep eaten the flower or not?" And you'll see how everything changes.
And no grown-up will ever understand how such a thing could be so important!
Antoine de Saint-Exupery, THE LITTLE PRINCE

mish · Messages: 1036 Location: Southern California

so...
you had some fun
you got your feet wet.

who knows?
keep playing, he's not gone yet, and if you really like him, i'd hurry to get over that "yonder" hump...

enjoy what you have NOW!

xomish

We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us....E.M.Forster

anntinasia · 23/06/2010 20:11:43 Subject: Re: Goodbye, Argentina?

Thanks LG and Jo.
I'm not feeling so fearless this day.
And "doing the deed" is getting closer and I don't know how much longer I can or even want to fend him off.
I've started to wonder what if would be like to have a man come home to me a t night and I decided I'd like that..
But if he leaves soon...I'll be left with nothing more than empty arms.
I guess I'm skeeeeeeeeeeered.
T
Hell, yes, I'd go to Argentina, but, me thinks that is a pipe dream at this point.

Anntinasia

"Sometimes life calls for an unexpected hat!"

"Everything you can imagine is real."
~Pablo Picasso~

anntinasia · 23/06/2010 20:18:05 Subject: Re: Goodbye, Argentina?

Thanks, Mish...
The "yonder" issue....well....my resolve is waning ...FAST...

and i know it will attach me more to him INSTANTLY! But for him, it's all just fun and games.

Anntinasia

"Sometimes life calls for an unexpected hat!"

"Everything you can imagine is real."
~Pablo Picasso~

elle · Messages: 892

maybe this is his way of finding out how serious you are without asking directly...

take time, evaluate, and follow your heart. it may get broken, but i prefer having loved at least a little over saying, 'what if?"

Scarlett651 · Messages: 2299 Location: the porch

Ahhh, Ms. T!! {{{Hugs}}}
such decisions to have to ponder so early on....
My two cents:
If you can ask then I'd have to wonder.

I've started to wonder what if would be like to have a man come home to me at night and I decided I'd like that..

and it's this line that makes me wonder....

'a man'...not This man...
'and I decided'....I'm not sure we can decide to Love.
we can decide what to DO about it...how to ACT on it.
but I don't think I could choose to Love...or not.
Love just....IS.

If you wonder....it's not.

*****

He said, "So...what do we do now?"
She said, "Perhaps it would be best to do nothing right now."
~~~
she said, "how do you feel about a year long courtship?"
He looked thoughtful for a moment and replied, "I can do that."
~~~~
A year (and a half!) later, they were together with no worries, no doubts, no regrets....just the LoVe.
~~~
if It is meant to be, it'll happen in its own time in its own way....
serendipity
~~~

We are not human beings making a spiritual journey...we are spiritual beings making a human journey.
~ Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
*******
"He lived happily ever after."
Willie Wonka

anntinasia · 24/06/2010 10:22:02 Subject: Re: Goodbye, Argentina?

Well, after a day of depression....I popped out of it and have decided to dive in and go skinny dipping...

My past is haunting me and I have got to let it go...........

Elle....you could very well be right. At least he had the decency to tell me in the first place...

Scarlett....I'm trying very hard NOT to fall in love with him too fast...It's very easy for me to love people. This man has class and is so damn adorable.
Cover your virgin eyes, Jo....
And once we do the yonder, I will be smitten (probably this weekend!

)

Thank you all for helping me with this decision....now I can move on to swooning again!

Oh! And he told me he brought me back a nice bottle of wine and something from Argentina.....

I like this being spoiled thing...
Ok!
I can now sign my post....
Love,
The FEARLESS Tattooed Hat Lady Anntinasia!

Anntinasia

"Sometimes life calls for an unexpected hat!"

"Everything you can imagine is real."
~Pablo Picasso~

hecticeclectic · 24/06/2010 10:52:17 Subject: Re: Goodbye, Argentina?

Um, I am NOT covering my eyes. If I do I cannot see what inane junk I am typing

.

I think Scarl made a pretty good point about a guy vs. the guy. Worth thinking about. In the meanwhile, enjoy it!

Love,
Jo

Look up at the sky. Ask yourself, "Has the sheep eaten the flower or not?" And you'll see how everything changes.
And no grown-up will ever understand how such a thing could be so important!
Antoine de Saint-Exupery, THE LITTLE PRINCE

anntinasia · 24/06/2010 12:35:52 Subject: Re: Goodbye, Argentina?

yes, i agree with "a guy" vs "the guy" , but he REALLY has to earn that status. He could be "the guy", there are early indications...but I'm trying not to get "overwhelmed" by him...ya know what I mean?
meanwhile....
could our Jo be uncovering her virgin eyes???

hat laidy.......

Anntinasia

"Sometimes life calls for an unexpected hat!"

"Everything you can imagine is real."
~Pablo Picasso~

Scarlett651 · Messages: 2299 Location: the porch

now I can move on to swooning again!

it IS hard to beat a good swoon!

XOXOX

We are not human beings making a spiritual journey...we are spiritual beings making a human journey.
~ Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
*******
"He lived happily ever after."
Willie Wonka

kathryn · Messages: 929 Location: little house on the prairie

It's hard to not be tied to "outcome" in a situation like this, but if you follow your heart, at least you will never have regrets about "what if." I believe there is a lot of truth in the saying that generally our biggest regrets are for the things we didn't do rather than for the ones we did. Broken hearts do heal. Still -- be safe and smart. Wishing you the best.

"Do not stop thinking about life as an adventure. You have no security unless you can live bravely, excitingly, imaginatively, unless you choose a challenge instead of a competence." ~Eleanor Roosevent

Dirty Pearl · Messages: 93

I probably got in on this too late to make a difference but that might be a good thing. Being fearless when we have all the information we need to feel secure is easy and it's not really being fearless. Being fearless means being willing to be vulnerable and insecure. The what-ifs make us uncomfortable for a reason--to grow our fearlessness, to accept impermanence, to not know what's going to happen next (something? nothing? bad thing? good thing?), and love anyway. In my opinion, it's the only way to love. I get into debates with women, even here, about the long list of conditions that must be met before committing to love. I say love anyway. There is no perfect man, no perfect circumstance, no perfect chemistry, no perfect anything. Trust me, time always reveals the imperfections. Love anyway. Dare to love, Tina, whether it is this man or the next or the next or the next. Not every Mr. Wonderful Right Now is auditioning for Mr. Wonderful Forever. Love what is; right now, fearlessly.

anntinasia · 25/06/2010 15:02:00 Subject: Re: Goodbye, Argentina?

Thanks Kath and D Pearl....I did not get my name "fearless" for nothing...but being fearless has left my heart broken many times...but it has been worth it in the end...mostly.

Got another email from Emilio today.

Hi Tina. Let me be in the cave for a while.efg

my response:

Hola Emilio,
Ok. I will wait for you for a while...
I know about the cave thing...only I retreat to what I call my sanctuary. When I was married, it was in my bedroom which was "garden like" and serene. I'd go in with my lap top and lock the door. I had a beautiful master suite that I designed with a lovely attached master bath.....I couldn't stay in there too long because of Eric...but when things got too much to bear with the ex.....I'd go and veg for a while.
I've decided to scratch the tour business idea and have the DVR help me find a job. Any job to get some income coming in. I've had so much negativity coming out of the so called professional people that were suppose to be helping me that I'm finally saying... F them. And I'm going to pursue my art career. That is where my heart and passion are. If someone looks at my art work and loves it and buys it then my vision plays no part in it. And that is very freeing. I am in no way shape or form ready to fade into the back ground. I simply love life and intend on living it.
If I can be there for you in any way, let me know. It is not my way to force my self or my opinions on any one. You come to me when you are ready.
There is an old Greg Allman tune called "I'm no Angel" (?) He says something to the eeffcct: "I'm hard to handle but I'm easier to hold. I'm no angel...". I'm ready to hold you, Emilio.....

Hugs & French Kisses
Tina

Anntinasia

"Sometimes life calls for an unexpected hat!"

"Everything you can imagine is real."
~Pablo Picasso~